How to Tell If a Man is a Perfectionist

The perfectionist man could be the perfect man if only people were perfect. None of us are. Many in the medical community consider perfectionism a psychological affliction, since it negatively affects one's behavior and can harm the body through excessive amounts of stress. Here are some signs that a man you know is a perfectionist and some ways to help him change his behavior.

Instructions

Tell if a Man is a Perfectionist

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  Listen to him constantly criticizing the imperfections of others.

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  Find yourself in too many situations where he is criticizing you.

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  Consider that he appears anxious most of the time.

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  Question why he is obsesses over mistakes he has made and is unable to let go and move on.

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  Ask yourself why he has never had a lasting relationship.

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  Wonder why he sets goals that are impossible to reach, but is always working on small easy steps that avoid achieving the end result.

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  Think about why he is always procrastinating.

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  Notice that he never tries to do something a second time that he failed at once.

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  Think about why he stays with a project long after others have given up.

Help a Man Overcome Being a Perfectionist

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  Teach him to stop feeling guilty about everything that doesn't work perfectly.

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  Tell him it's OK to say, "I don't know."

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  Make him learn to accept praise.

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  Show him that not always reaching his goals should not be a measure of his self-worth.

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  Talk to him every time he gets frustrated that he made a small mistake. Tell him you love him for the fact that he made a mistake because it makes you feel better when you make mistakes.

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  Convince him that he has probably been a perfectionist since he was a child, and since he is no longer a child it's OK to change his behavior.

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  Tell him that a mistake is actually an opportunity for something new.

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  Remind him that top athletes and world leaders who make mistakes are highly admired.