Supporting Someone Who Self‑Harms: 10 Compassionate Steps

How to Help

1. Stay calm – your steadiness provides safety.
2. Seek to understand – ask gentle, non‑judgmental questions about triggers and feelings.
3. Express care – "I'm here for you; you matter to me."
4. Listen actively – validate emotions without fixing or minimizing.
5. Encourage professional help – therapy (DBT, CBT) is evidence‑based for self‑injury.
6. Assist with access – research providers, help schedule, navigate insurance.
7. Offer accompaniment – attend appointments if they want support.
8. Practice patience – recovery is non‑linear; setbacks occur.
9. Maintain boundaries – you are a supporter, not a therapist.
10. Never give up – consistent presence saves lives.

Crisis Resources

• 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (call/text 988)
• Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
• International: findahelpline.com